Infidelity Counseling

Our Unique Approach To Online Infidelity Counseling

Are you struggling to rebuild trust after an affair?

Did you have a physical or emotional affair and are now desperately working to repair the damage? Are you afraid it’s a losing battle? 

Did you cheat on your spouse and now you’re consumed with regret and want nothing more than to make it up to them?

Or are you devastated that your spouse had an affair? 

Are you wondering if your spouse is telling the truth every time he or she opens their mouth? 

Are you struggling with intrusive thoughts or even fantasies of revenge? 

You feel like everything you thought you knew about your marriage – and about your spouse – is a lie. You’re questioning your whole relationship. 

You want your marriage to work but you’re unsure whether it’ll ever be the same again.

You’re not alone. 

And despite how you’re feeling right now – you’re not broken.

It’s normal to feel all of these emotions. It’s normal to be going around and around in your head desperately searching for answers.

Coping with infidelity can be overwhelming but with the right tools, resources, and support it can get better.

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Therapists Who Specialize In Infidelity Counseling Can Help

A therapist who specializes in infidelity counseling understands what you’re going through and can help you through the initial roller coaster stage. They can help you slow things down and develop perspective about the affair and your marriage. 

Conventional infidelity counseling focuses largely on rebuilding trust. Trust is important to a happy marriage but after specializing in infidelity counseling for over 25 years, we know that most couples find that rebuilding trust has significant drawbacks.

Trust isn’t something that can be “worked on” or forced. 

Think about it.

If you’re the betrayed spouse, rebuilding trust puts pressure on you to believe something you’re just not ready to believe. 

If you’re the spouse who had the affair, rebuilding trust has you continually on your knees begging for forgiveness. 

Both of you feel like you have to make up for something. And the cycle continues without making any real progress.

Trust will come, with time, when you work with a therapist who specializes in infidelity counseling.

If you want to move forward in your marriage, you have to mature, grow together and learn to become equals again.

Here at Marriage Help Colorado, we take a different approach to infidelity counseling. Using a family systems approach, we work on your marriage holistically. We recognize the work is about you, about developing the ability to trust yourself, not just your partner again. 

It’s difficult to process the emotions and the hurt alone. It’s not something you can just “get over.” We understand that. We can help you through this difficult time.

How Can Infidelity Counseling Help My Marriage?

Infidelity counseling can help you identify patterns in your marriage that aren’t working for you. We ask thought-provoking questions to help you find a new approach to these patterns. 

Infidelity counseling using family systems theory helps you explore a different perspective.

Ultimately it’s not about recovery. It’s about growth.

Our focus is on healing, change, and growth. Growth as individuals and as a couple. When you work with us for infidelity counseling you’ll be able to:

  • Approach the relationship as two equals
  • Let go of the “why” behind the affair 
  • Have a broader perspective of your marriage
  • Gain a better sense of self –  a better ability to be yourself

How Do I Get Started With Online Infidelity Counseling?

If you’re ready to get the help and support you need after an affair, we’re here to help! Currently, we offer safe, secure online infidelity counseling. 

Here’s how you can get started:

1.) Fill out the appointment request form

2.) You’ll receive a call back within 48 hours

3.) We’ll learn more about your specific needs and what you need help with

4.) We’ll match you with a therapist that’s best for you and book your initial appointment

Are you ready for infidelity counseling but still have questions?

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You aren’t alone. Here are our Frequently Asked Questions and answers.

This has been so painful for us. We aren’t sure we can make it. Can a marriage survive an affair?

While we can’t say for certain if your marriage will survive the affair, we do know that statistics show that many couples stay together and some even come out stronger on the other side. We’ve seen this in our practice over the years. We know you have a huge mountain to climb but if you have the right resources, it’s much easier. 

With our unique approach to infidelity counseling, we’ve been helping couples navigate affairs successfully for years. Working with us, we’ll help you take it one small step at a time. Finding a therapist that’s specially trained in infidelity counseling and is the right fit for you is crucial to your success.

My spouse wants to know the details of my affair. Will therapy force me to reveal the details?

No. Whether a person shares details is up to them. We have found that when couples can make the decision collaboratively about what details to share, the conversation goes much more smoothly than if they feel forced. 

When this decision is made together (rather than out of desperation or pressure) couples can actually feel closer after the details are shared. This usually happens after many months (or even a year) into the process. 

I want my husband to pay for what he’s done. Will therapy help me get him to apologize?

No. As much pain as you may be feeling, revenge won’t ultimately fix anything, and apologies offered under duress are meaningless.

Looking for free resources to help you through this time?

Check out Beyond Affairs Network or B.A.N. This is a volunteer organization that runs support groups for betrayed spouses only. There is currently a support group in Fort Collins, Colorado. For more information, you can contact B.A.N. directly (www.beyondaffairsnetwork.com) 

We understand there are no simple answers to infidelity. One thing we know is that we can help you make sense of it. Then, we can help you make the necessary changes to be able to move forward in your marriage.

When you work with a family systems therapist for infidelity counseling, the emphasis is on change.

We understand what works in infidelity counseling. 

Our office provides:

  • Secure, online, infidelity counseling
  • A safe, non-judgemental space for both people to discuss their feelings
  • Unique family systems approach specific to you

If you’re ready to get started with online infidelity counseling, fill out our appointment request form today!

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